Agatha Seymour's

A lot of people complain that their darling has become lazy, inattentive and he/she has put on other unpleasant habits. Unfortunately I must tell you that in most cases the problem is with us, because it is us who make the other get used to being served without return. It’s advisable to consciously build up the everydays of our relationship for the beginning and to pay attention not to let things become unhealthily disproportionate. Later on it’s more difficult to change set habits and that’s why it’s worth keeping in mind the saying: what today is a favor tomorrow a requirement… /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

Women’s most important virtue is said to be beauty. We only have to visit facebook where we can find photos of dozens of beautiful and desirable women and we might take it for sure that they have nothing to worry about in their lives, destiny offers everything for them on a silver tray, they can choose from crowds of men. I was surprised when one of my male friends, after hearing my amazement in connection with the topic remarked: ‘Beauty. Come on! There are so many beautiful women that they are a dime a dozen. Beauty in itself is far from being enough for a sophisticated men, it can only be a basic requirement to start a relationship.’ /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

There are no women on earth who wouldn’t be obsessed with creams and cosmetics. I’m not an exception either, but I don’t take it to the extremes since I asked my dermatologist about the topic. ‘Don’t pay a fortune for magic cosmetics’ she advised me. The beauty industry sells dreams hidden in wonderful packages. If those expensive creams could really do magic they would be sold at the chemist’s for prescription, as they do it with real active agents and antibiotics. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

It might sound strange, but even if I’m affected only by small pains or offences, I always take my feeling aroused by these events seriously. To be precise, I take it seriously not to provoke myself too far into being hurt and angry because these feeling only take me to the wrong direction, we easily identify with them and we produce failure from these situations and sink into bitterness. My favorite writer’s thoughts come to my mind as a deterrent example, which he gathered during his years spent in hospital: “I knew that suffering doesn’t improve me: it degrades me. It makes people selfish, narrow-minded, mean and suspicious. It digests them little by little. Instead of being superior creatures, it makes them inferior; and I wrote it down angrily that we don’t learn resignation from our own suffering but from the suffering of others.” /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

Life energy is a priceless treasure. Often when I meet a lot of people instead of exclusively concentrating on my tasks, I listen to everybody and turn to them with honest attention by the end of the day I’m often exhausted, tired and I feel as if I lost all my energy. I had to realize and accept that a lot of people just collect energy from others, they want to burden others with their problems and then go on relieved. Honest relationships are nothing like that, after a good friendly chat everybody feels better and goes home charged, happy and fresh even in the small hours. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

I was sitting in a café with one of my friends. His phone rang, he answered it and quickly closed the conversation with few sentences. Seeing my confusion, he gave the following explanation: ‘I don’t want to spend time or hours on everybody, on giving free advice or just to waste my time. Time is precious and we have the least of it during our lives so we must choose carefully who we share it with. Of course, I’m always here for my best friends but I’d better choose well who I spend time with. In those relationships where only we are the ones who give, sooner or later we will feel bad and start blaming the other, whereas it is only us who are responsible for establishing unequal conditions’ he added. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

I love my home. I think one’s home tells as much about a person as his/her clothing. For me my home is an active, dynamic living space and not a museum. It must be simple, natural, comfortable and cosy in order to feel secure. In spring I always reorganize it in the name of revival and rebirth. I know that this is the worst nightmare of every man but I think in this respect we shouldn’t get stuck in our habits and we don’t have to sleep on the left side of the bed all our lives… Sometimes we must shake things up a little around us in order to see our life from another point of view. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

When you are in love, you attribute every delicate feeling inside you and inner wealth to the other. You think that it’s thanks to the other that you are in that heavenly state, that you are deliriously happy in love. If we think it through every feeling that we experience is ours, the energy and the elevated state of mind is in us and not in the other. It’s hard to accept but we are this beauty, this glare, the universal energy, the other is just a mirror. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

I’m aware of the fact that fear is only the game of the ego, but still if I’m not conscious enough I’m afraid of many things, what’s more I can disclose myself in unbelievable fear. Then sometimes I have adventurous moments when I do something that I have been afraid of. It’s an elevating feeling which is every time followed by amazement and confusion. Why don’t I do something that I’m afraid of every day? Nothing would happen but I would realize that this fear of mine was as nonsense as all the others… /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

‘How can you recognize a 21st century yogi? He/she doesn’t want to persuade anybody about the truth’ said a Buddhist teacher. It often comes to my mind when someone wants to force his/her unwanted advice on me or when I look at myself with outspread arms and can’t understand why I play the smarty? No matter what, everybody will do whatever they want and I believe the most frequent mistake committed by people is trying to change or persuade others… /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

I sometimes realize that such things annoy me absolutely unnecessarily which I have nothing to do with. After a while I noticed that only those things can concern me which I identify with (usually without a reason, unnecessarily). If I see the events through other glasses and only declare it factually without emotions that another person gave his/her opinion and I don’t start thinking about what he/she might have in mind, might feel for me or might expect from me but I close the case with the factual statement, nothing will happen. Life goes on, everybody does his/her task, they, I and the world as well./Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

To tell you the truth, I always know from the first moment what I’m supposed to do for my aims at a given time, but it often happens that I just put it off for this or that reason. When I again have to face the situation it has grown to be a serious task and it implies so many things-to-do that I have to make serious efforts to manage the situation. But how much easier it would be to deal with things when they can still be easily sorted out and there is no mess around us… /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

There are no women on earth who wouldn’t be obsessed with creams and cosmetics. I’m not an exception either, but I don’t take it to the extremes since I asked my dermatologist about the topic. ‘Don’t pay a fortune for magic cosmetics’ she advised me. The beauty industry sells dreams hidden in wonderful packages. If those expensive creams could really do magic they would be sold at the chemist’s for prescription, as they do it with real active agents and antibiotics. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

The greatest value of today’s world is the idea! Everybody is thinking about a truly unique thing, let it be a new ‘facebook’ or anything else which can provide financial or social recognition. In my experience, imagination and creativity can be improved by practice. The more you work, the more things you produce, the more imaginative you will be and it can even happen that one thought drags with itself another one. It is enough to think it through that often by the time we finish with a job, we would create something totally different if we had to start it from the beginning. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

It might sound strange, but even if I’m affected only by small pains or offences, I always take my feeling aroused by these events seriously. To be precise, I take it seriously not to provoke myself too far into being hurt and angry because these feeling only take me to the wrong direction, we easily identify with them and we produce failure from these situations and sink into bitterness. My favorite writer’s thoughts come to my mind as a deterrent example, which he gathered during his years spent in hospital: “I knew that suffering doesn’t improve me: it degrades me. It makes people selfish, narrow-minded, mean and suspicious. It digests them little by little. Instead of being superior creatures, it makes them inferior; and I wrote it down angrily that we don’t learn resignation from our own suffering but from the suffering of others.” /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

I was sitting in a café with one of my friends. His phone rang, he answered it and quickly closed the conversation with few sentences. Seeing my confusion, he gave the following explanation: ‘I don’t want to spend time or hours on everybody, on giving free advice or just to waste my time. Time is precious and we have the least of it during our lives so we must choose carefully who we share it with. Of course, I’m always here for my best friends but I’d better choose well who I spend time with. In those relationships where only we are the ones who give, sooner or later we will feel bad and start blaming the other, whereas it is only us who are responsible for establishing unequal conditions’ he added. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

Life energy is a priceless treasure. Often when I meet a lot of people instead of exclusively concentrating on my tasks, I listen to everybody and turn to them with honest attention by the end of the day I’m often exhausted, tired and I feel as if I lost all my energy. I had to realize and accept that a lot of people just collect energy from others, they want to burden others with their problems and then go on relieved. Honest relationships are nothing like that, after a good friendly chat everybody feels better and goes home charged, happy and fresh even in the small hours. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

Although I adore my favorite cook, Nigella Lawson’s not really low fat meals, if I want to ‘sin’ I rather choose a sugar-free confectionary. There are some very nice confectionaries in the city with quite wide range of cakes. I think the sugar-free cakes are at least as delicious as the ones made with sugar, I only have one problem with them. Even after eating two pieces of cake I feel as if I had eaten only illusion, I’m not full, or even I get hungrier. Of course this little nuance doesn’t distract me from voting for a healthy lifestyle, the brave ones can give it a try! /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agahtaseymour.com

We tend to blame our failures on our inner qualities, like half-heartedness, weakness etc… However, in my experience, it is usually just an excuse for myself and for others. Actually laziness, lack of motivation and indifference lingers in the background. It is worth being honest to ourselves in order to see clearly… /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

Our world has speeded up, as well as our relationships. It seems that we have no time to wait for the other because life rushes past us and we miss the most important things. However, the situation is far from being so catastrophic. Recently I have faced the fact that men can and are ready to wait for a woman if they think seriously about a relationship. One of my good friends is waiting for a lady for months from who he believes she might be the One. He is not forceful, doesn’t act as if he didn’t care, he has honestly stated his feelings and he is waiting for the right moment when they can join together. Ladies, you shouldn’t give up hope!/Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

There are some hard, even tragic situations, like death, illness etc. when we feel exposed and feel that life has taken all our supports. In my experience these horrible situations prove the best who we really are. Those who can rely on themselves, on their inner strength and faith, they realize what a great power they have, that one shouldn’t cry over these situations but fight them and come out of these sorrowful hardships strengthened. /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

My friend is a huge wine fan! A few years ago she got a special bottle of wine and she immediately called to tell me the good news and she said that she would open the perfect wine in the perfect moment, for the perfect occasion and I would be among the lucky ones who can taste the special drink. One, two, even three years had passed before the perfect moment came. We gathered together and everybody was waiting anxiously for the big moment. We opened the bottle, my girlfriend excitedly sniffed the cork and then the wine in the glass. We were shocked when she stated: ‘it has expired. We shouldn’t have waited so long…’ Then I realized that the perfect moment is when you still can do something beautiful, something good… /Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com

Sometimes we feel that the end has come, that the problems cannot be sorted out, that the situation is hopeless. When I’m in this situation one of my good friends comes to my mind. ‘You can never know what tomorrow holds’ said she when I had a harder period of life. She was right. If I didn’t struggle but lived my life as before, life always helped me out, tomorrow really holds surprises!/Agatha Seymour/ You are welcome at my website: agathaseymour.com